We all have conflict from time to time. Sometimes it is with our spouse or children. Sometimes it is with our parents or a family member. Sometimes we have conflict with a neighbor, co-worker, employer, or employee. Conflict is inevitable. The question is, how do we resolve it in a God honoring way?
Truth: We were created for God’s purpose and Pleasure, and are called to do all things in Jesus Name, and to His Glory.
Colossians 1:16 For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through him and for him.
Colossians 3:17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
1 Corinthians 10:31 So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
Conclusion: In the challenges we face with others we are commanded to work through it for God’s purpose and pleasure. We are also commanded to do it in Jesus Name and to His Glory.
When dealing with conflict try the peacemaker approach.
The Four G’s of Peacemaking (From Peacemaker Ministries)
1. Glorify God (1 Corinthians 10:31): “How can I please and honor God in this situation?” Without attacking or dishonoring each other we will discuss the challenges we face from our perspective.
2. Get the Log Out of Your Eye (Matthew 7:5): “How can I show Jesus’ work in me by taking responsibility for my contribution to this conflict?” Apologize and ask for forgiveness.
3. Gently Restore (Galatians 6:1): “How can I lovingly serve others by helping them take responsibility for their contribution to this conflict?”
4. Go and Be Reconciled (Matthew 5:24): “How can I demonstrate the forgiveness of God and encourage a reasonable solution to this conflict?”
Start by discussing the challenges you face from your perspective, in a God honoring way, without attacking or dishonoring each other. Make sure to show Jesus’ work in us by taking responsibility for any contribution you may have made to the current situation. Apologize and ask for forgiveness where appropriate. My prayer is that you will demonstrate the forgiveness of God and embrace a reasonable solution to the challenges you are facing.
The truth is God is always wanting to redeem and restore whenever possible. We are quick to destroy and run away. There is a greater love, joy, and peace on the other side of this conflict than you could imagine. If you are struggling in a conflict I greatly encourage you to pray. God knows both sides. He can help you say the right things as well as gently help you see areas you need to grow in as well. Friends, my prayer is that this article would be instrumental in helping you take the next step toward redeeming your conflicts for God’s glory. Let me know how I can help. Contact me through the web site and I’d be happy to assist you as you make your way toward peace. God’s blessings!
Pastor Brian H. Fontaine